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When Children Are Bored…

Updated: Sep 23, 2022

By Joanne Foster, Ph.D.

I’m bored!

How many parents have heard those words, and wondered what to do? What follows here is information about what underlies boredom, plus strategies to help young children go from being idle to being happily productive.


Some children say, “I’m bored” often, others sporadically or at certain times of the day. There are those who experience boredom when circumstances are trying, worrisome, or confining (such as during a pandemic), or when things seem too difficult, easy, or repetitive. There are also kids who may be feeling lethargic or tired, or who lack a sense of purpose. And, lots of children are unable to figure out why they feel bored, they just know they do. They may really be feeling something else, such as confusion, disappointment, apprehension, or discouragement. Those are complex concepts for little ones to grasp, so it’s just easier for them to say, “I’m bored.”

Many parents hear those trigger words and jump to attention. After all, if their child is bored, shouldn’t they be at the ready to provide appropriate stimulation and take responsibility for keeping that child engaged and content?


Parents should certainly be attuned to their child’s well-being, and safeguard family members’ health and well-being. However, parents should not try to “rescue” their child from boredom. That deprives kids of learning how to acquire initiative. It compromises enthusiasm, spontaneity, and creative expression, and robs them of the chance to become self-sufficient. Boredom can be constructive. It primes children to develop accountability for their own intellectual stimulation and can lead them to become intrinsically motivated.

Intrinsic motivation is a drive from within. It propels children forward. It sparks a search for information, generates action, and enhances curiosity. As children grow, motivation leads to autonomy, commitment, and the ability to balance activities and demands. It can also kindle pride, pleasure, and feelings of competence.

Parents who connect meaningfully with their children—who affirm their capacities, bolster their confidence, demonstrate resourcefulness, and show them how to use time wisely—are well-positioned to help kids find intrinsic motivation, and harness their own ways to dispel boredom.


What should parents pay close attention to when children complain of boredom?

Pay attention to children’s feelings, attitudes, and concerns. How are these affecting their attitude, and behavior? Talk to them about their individual interests and preferences. What does the child really like to do? How can you support that? Also, consider areas of strength and weakness in different domains, and the sorts of experiences that might be gratifying and appropriately challenging. Furthermore, think about influences (people, surroundings, or things) that could affect how the child is reacting at a particular time. Reflect upon any or all of this, including what might be altered so as to improve motivation.

What motivates young children?

Motivation can be fueled by many different factors—such as joy, suspense, past experiences, manageability, self-selected options, and satisfying connections with others. Motivation is associated with triggers such as instinct, curiosity, and personal needs. Young children are often motivated if they receive genuine praise, encouragement, and reinforcement, including helpful feedback about their efforts and achievements. Kids develop motivation when they anticipate success, and when they experience enjoyment through understanding or pride in accomplishment. And, they become more industrious, self-directed, and motivated to try something if they sense a supportive climate.

Here are 10 targeted suggestions to enable intrinsic motivation to emerge: flexibility; choice; respect for the uniqueness of the individual; surprise; change of scenery or environment (including outings); humor; breaking tasks into manageable steps; fair expectations: a little technology; and reassurance.

How can I stimulate motivation when my child complains of boredom?

Here are 8 strategies:

1. A framework for positive action starts by getting calm and feeling capable. Encourage children to talk about what makes them curious, confident, and happy. Help them notice new ways of looking at things inside, outside, all around, and together—by asking questions and finding fresh opportunities to generate interests.

2. Tap the senses. Ask, “What can you see, hear, touch, taste, feel, and smell?” Multi-sensory experiences can be exciting, and provide renewed insights and energy. Show this by discussing examples—in nature, within stories, at home, or elsewhere.

3. Busyness is not always good. Unscheduled time is beneficial! Kids should relax, read, play, and daydream. Co-create a comfort zone. Downtime and rest are restorative for young children.

4. Appreciate the moment. This is often referred to as mindfulness. Kids can think about the possibilities of the here-and-now, and how to make it matter. (There are 25 points that relate to doing things NOW in the article “Eat a Cookie.”)

5. Embrace collaboration. Encourage shared fun and activities. Crafts, games, gardening, joke-telling, singalongs, exercise, baking, building structures, reading books aloud, role-playing stories, helping others…

6. Who (or what) can help? Some children like to explore interests with helpers, thereby bridging gaps and fostering motivation. For example, if a young child likes music or dancing, a guiding influence can infuse enthusiasm, and bring further enjoyment.

7. Don’t underestimate the power of resilience. Conquering challenges makes children feel good! People progress by faltering, stumbling, and blundering—and picking themselves up again. Chat about this, especially if a child’s boredom or lack of motivation stems from a fear of failure. Seize opportunities to put challenges into perspective so children can see how potential setbacks can become possibilities.

8. Get creative! Parents can show faith in children’s abilities, and welcome their creative ideas to help allay boredom. My column at The Creativity Post contains scores of articles with hundreds of tips to nurture children’s creative expression.


Just because children declare, “I’m bored!” parents are not required to entertain them. Nor should they pressure, judge, micromanage, admonish, cajole, or try to conjure activities out of some magic hat. And, they don’t have to despair about boredom either. Parents who perceive boredom as defiance, misbehavior, disobedience, laziness, or through some other negative lens, can take another tack and reframe their outlook. They can, instead, view boredom as a portal to adventure—and encourage children to do likewise. Most importantly, parents can stay attuned to their children, and demonstrate how to create time and space for resourcefulness, discovery, and personal growth.

Some additional First Time Parent Magazine resources by Dr. Joanne Foster to help children develop forward momentum during the pandemic—and beyond:

From Disappointment to Joy – October 2020

Cultivate a Love of Reading – January 2020


Dr. Joanne Foster’s most recent book is ABCs of Raising Smarter Kids: Hundreds of Ways to Inspire Your Child. For more information about Dr. Foster’s award-winning books, and for access to many articles and links, go to the Resources Page at (COVID-related material is marked with a red asterisk.)

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